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Two adult coaches with kids basketball team

To begin, I want to explore the meaning of coach.  A coach could be a wonderfully supportive and inspiring mentor who offers the gift of guidance along your path of development. Conversely, a coach could be someone with a position of power over you, who intimidates and influences your decisions with their own interests in mind.  

man at prow of boat

It’s a common theme throughout folk tales and hit movies – one person (or a few) sacrifice everything to save the day, to rescue others.

Child climbing tree

Words, as we speak them, can mean different things to different people based in our past experiences. What we say, how we say it, our intentions behind it - all the “unspoken/nonverbal” influence that affects our communication - wow, this can be tricky! 

Man with bionoculars

One of the first steps in making the shift from the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) to The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) is simply bringing an awareness to your interactions. Once you become aware you can begin to identify the triangle and different roles. Start to look for patterns.  

Stick man on hamster wheel

For many of us, the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) is all too familiar.  It can be enlightening to learn about but at the same time frustrating to try and shift to The Empowerment Dynamic (TED).  

Backpacker overlooking a valley at sunset

The minute I learned about The Drama Triangle, first described by Stephen Karman, MD, I could see it everywhere in my life. I can confidently say I’ve played every role, though I never really enjoyed the part. 

Hurd and ORourke in car

Two congressmen from Texas, one a Democrat the other a Republican, got into a car in the early morning hours of March 15, 2017 to begin a 1,600-mile road-trip to Washington, D.C.  Their deadline – a House floor vote, 6pm Wednesday evening.  In true modern day fashion, they decided to share the experience via social media, livestreaming their adventure on Facebook. 

kids at school lunch tables

Children are constantly encouraged to make new friends, try new activities, and take in new information. But often, something happens as people age.  Cliques develop and can be found in schools, workplaces, places of spiritual practice, and on and on.

A few weeks back, a participant in a conference call about trauma-informed communities asked me an interesting question: “If I were to come to Tarpon Springs, would I notice anything different about it? Would I be able to tell that it’s trauma-informed and that Peace4Tarpon had an impact?”

This morning I found myself in need of my safety plan.  From the outside, the situation probably didn’t seem like a trigger to the kind staff member who was helping me, but to me it was very stressful.

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